The things I worry about as a Mami

February 3, 2010 by Jai
Filed under Hogar

SDC10049 Kodak and JucieBoxJungle sponsored me to write this post about Mamihood, and they asked me to talk about the top and /or bottom 3 things I think/worry about as a mom. Here goes!

I like to think that I am an easy going mom. I tend to notice what my son’s mood is for the current day and go by that. When you’re dealing with a precocious three year old, it’s sometimes the best thing to do for everyone. And for my sanity. Not that I always let him get his way because that doesn’t happen in the real world and our role as a mami is to prepare them for the real world. Here are some things that I don’t worry about as a mom.
1. If he eats all of the food on his plate. My son is a healthy weight and looks pretty solid almost like a football player. As high as the rate of obesity and childhood obesity is in this country, I shy away from my own Mami’s complaint of “eat all your food mija!” and if he doesn’t want to eat it, he doesn’t. But don’t think I will give him something else either. He eats dinner or he doesn’t. But there is no negotiation on what he’s eating for dinner.

2. The pace at which he’s learning. He’s a very smart kid, and honestly what parent doesn’t think their child is smart? He knows a few Spanish words and loves our food and culture. He’s also fluent in English and speaks very well. He knows his ABC’s and 123’s. I’m not going to rush him to speak one language or another or make him learn. Children learn while they are having fun and that’s what we tend to do at our house.

3. His growth rate. I don’t compare my child to another one his age. I’m blessed to have a happy and healthy child and as a preemie, he surpassed all his goals and was always at the top of weight and height even for a normal child. As long as he’s developing normally, that’s all that matters. What someone else’s kid does in comparison is irrelevant to me.

So it looks like I’m very easy going huh? But there is one thing that I do lay awake at night thinking of. Should I give him a sibling? We’ve had such a trying time that I’m not sure whether or not I’d like to go through that again. Also, we seem to be very comfortable with just the three of us. But I do think I’m being a bit selfish by not having another child. I’m sure that every parent has gone through this decision. What influenced your decision to have an only child or to continue to have more children?